How Do You Manage Emotions?

Today I was prompted by a question: How do you control emotions? Here is what I replied.

 

I learned a long time ago that our emotions come from our ideas of how things should be; in other words, our expectations. The more flexible we are with our expectations, the easier it is to manage anger, anxiety, and frustration. I’m not saying we should not hold others accountable for breaking agreements, but if we are not tightly wrapped in an idea of how things should be, it's easier to let it go and move on. Once we are past the shock of it not going how we expected, it is easier to approach that disappointment with a manageable attitude.

 

 

Another thing I have learned is to be aware of your body's cues that emotions will soon get out of control: Do you get a headache? Do your hands start sweating or do you tighten your jaw? Does any part of your body (usually your stomach or neck) feel tight? What about your heartbeat? Take a break as soon as you notice these cues, and follow some classic techniques to regain control of your emotions. Try imagining a peaceful scene or a happy ending. Breathe slower and deeper. Or try saying or thinking positive phrases like: "I am able...", "I can...", and "It is possible..." Now, I pass the question on to you:

How do you manage your emotions?

(You can post your answer below.)